People can generally accept a negative concrete outcome — like not landing the job — if they felt like they presented themselves well.
That led Cuddy to realize that success in challenging situations is about leaving without regret and feeling satisfied that you did the best you could.
Cuddy calls the ability to fully represent yourself in challenging situations “presence,” and she suggests a number of ways to develop it:
1. Realize you’re not alone
“About half the world is feeling this way right now,” Cuddy told the audience at the 92Y, referring to that feeling of low confidence and powerlessness.
2. Affirm your core values
Right before a job interview, or any other challenging situation, take a few minutes to write about a core value that’s meaningful to you, such as your family or career success. Then write about a time when that value was important.
3. Change your body language
“The body is so linked to the mind,” Cuddy told the audience at the 92Y talk. “I would say the body is constantly leading a conversation with the mind.” That’s why mimicking the body language of powerful people can make you feel more confident, too.
The bottom line: Using any — or all — of these techniques won’t ensure that you get the job. But they will help you present your full and best self, even under stress, so that you walk out the door feeling truly successful.
Chosen excerpts by Job Market Monitor. Read the whole story at Amy Cuddy explains definition of success in job interview – Business Insider